Toi,
Perhaps, just as ChabadShlucha is siding with one opinion brought by gedolei yisroel and refuses to recognize the other opinion as legitimate, maybe, just maybe you are doing the same thing?
In Torah one can have two opinions that totally disagree with each other and we still say “אלו ואלו דא”ח”
With regards to the point being discussed.
The following is a quote from a article. The source brought is Sichot Chafetz Chaim, par. 14. I do not own that sefer, and could not find it online on hebrewbooks or other websites. If someone could quote the priginal that would be much appreciated.
“We pray for the redemption several times every day. Even so, requesting by itself is not enough. One must demand the redemption, just as with the wages of a hired worker: the law stipulates that if the worker does not demand his wages, there is no obligation to give it to him on the very day that he completes his work. So, too, we must demand our redemption. Failure to do so shows that this matter is clearly not that urgent to us!”
To summarize: as in most concepts in Yiddishkeit, there are different opinions. On Davening in general, one can find numerous shittos (in Rishonim) on what one accomplishes, why do we need to ask, and similar questions. The fact that the Chovos Halevavos brings one, does not in any way negate the others. Hence the concept of מחלוקת in Judaism. Same applies here.