happyboy123: You need to do hishtadlus. Hishtadlus isn’t putting your health in danger and relying on a miracle to save it. Like I said, if a boy was interested in changing his health that would be another story.
I know this is a sensitive subject for you, and therefore you are in denial about the negative health effects this will have on you and everyone in your vicinity. If you don’t even think that there’s a problem with this than davka you are someone I wouldn’t even think about dating. Iv’e been out with quite a few boys and I’ve met people who do things that are bad for their spiritual health, physical health, etc. No one is perfect. But someone who doesn’t want to change… that’s a problem. Someone who won’t even admit it’s an issue?! That’s even worse! I went out with someone once who told me he was watching things he shouldn’t. That didn’t bother me as much as the fact that he was so nonchalant about it and didn’t follow up the sentence with. “I want to stop” or even “I know it’s wrong”. The latter, not even admitting there was an issue with what he watching is what made me say no.