Reply To: Why are Children from divorced homes treated as second class citizens?

Joseph
“And then then it can only be mandated if he was already formally warned and continued anyways”
Ask any Rav involved in gittin how often they discussed abuse with men and gotten a justification for their behavior. Whether they feel their wife is bad for some issue real or imagined or they use halacha to justify their strong reactions.
Abusers (angry people) feel their anger is necessary and justified despite being an obvious averah.
Similar to those posting here who feel they can treat children of divorce badly for some sort of “greater good” .