Yitzchom
You don’t see a distinction between “celebrated” and mentchlikeit?
no one is talking about throwing a party. But frankly middos is dictated by torah and a requirement.
If a woman is required to get an abortion al pi halacha you should shun her? I don’t shun people for following halacha
Time truth
ever learned meseches gittin?
there are no red herrings here, plus abuse and infidelity is a lot more common then those who aren’t in the know think it is. Getting divorced is often a matter of psak, despite you thinking it’s a lifestyle choice. I can easily think of a dozen cases I personally know where the rabbunim involved pushed for divorce because of halachic abuse (this includes emotional ), and infidelity (both male and female). If you include one spouse becoming openly or secretly not frum that number doubles.
For those not involved in the scene, a Rav is AlWAYS involved before a get will be issued, therapy/counseling (sometimes years) is always required before a b’d will issue a get (at least by the batei dinim I am familiar with)