As a father of a girl in Shidduchim, when a shidduch was looking positive by both sides, I always made an excuse that I happened to be in Israel next week, would fly in for a day and would sit down for a chat with the boy.
Yes its expensive and Im not rich and yes we dont want to preempt the boy into an impression based on the father, but in the crazy world we are in asking shidduch info is hardly any use, you get the same answers about boys that are miles apart. Unless you have someone who has your cause at heart it is really hard.
Also the girls are shy to really prod about the boys standards and levels.
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