The little I know:
In an ideal world, in my opinion it shouldn’t matter.
But it does, that’s reality.
Your clothes send a message across, and I know this very much as a girl. There’s things I can’t wear that are actually tzniyus, because they send the wrong message. They send a message that I belong to a different crowd, or that I’m an “edgy” type of girl, etc. As much as you boys think you have problems with clothing, us girls have it much worse. It’s not between to articles, we have to choose all the time, and ask our selves ALL the time over any accesory, article of clothing, shoes…what message does this send the world?
And to deny that part of reality is basically living denial. I’m sorry.
Now, there ARE places where white and colored shirts don’t send different messages, AND if you live in such a place, great! But to live in a place where it’s a fact that the color of your shirt will send a message, and you think that “it’s stupid, I don’t want to be a part of that, I’ll wear what I want, and people shouldn’t judge me” is ridiculous. If your motto is “I think it’s ridiculous, but I resepect the society and their standards, and the price I am choosing to pay is to not be a part of the mainstream society, and I’m not angry or upset at them or my choice” is another story completely.
Be mature. Be honest with yourself.
Be realistic.
These are things I’m looking for in a husband.
I never said yo have to like it, agree with it, but be realistic, be honest, don’t be in denial, and make decisions.