Joseph: Let’s say before marriage we seemed to be 80% compatible but there were about 20% of things that I found to be a “chisoron” (these things were not necessarily her personally but things that were common in her family). I will not get into what they exactly were but it was opposite from how my family conducted themselves. I felt that I could either overlook it or at least when around my family to avoid what she did in her parents house. Since we have been married I have found other “chesronos” that now measure 50%. These other “chesronos” were not discernible before and only exposed themselves after marriage.
How I deal with these issues is my personal business (and my Rav’s) and not for public consumption.