To risk sounding repetitive, you have to change and broaden the circle of people you hang out with, make new connections in other communities that are more relevant. It’s about networking. If you can’t move to a different community, then get shabbos invitations by families who might have connections, develop personal relationships with a shul rav or rebbeim from yeshiva, past or present.
I also advice that you pick one person as your shidduch guru- someone to go to for advice, someone who can help you check out suggestions and make phone calls for you, someone who can represent you to shadchanim- in other words, acting as a parent would, since your parents do not seem to be part of the loop.
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