Joseph:
You wrote: “Do you require potential shidduchim for yourself and your family to undergo a physical to insure their good health?”
I never mandated a physical. But I specifically asked about medical issues. I am less interested in diagnostic labels, and far more interested in symptoms. My questions are varied, but specific to common issues. I ask about anger. What does he/she do when they get angry? How do they get along with others? How do they handle situations that are new, strange, or challenging to them? These questions matter far more than their academic performance, whether they were in the school play or choir, or their yichus. If there are medical issue sin the family, such as diabetes, hypertension, etc., I want to know about that beforehand, so that I have the risk factors as an open issue, not a secret.
It is very, very useful to inquire about the shalom bayis of the parents. Just needed to put that out, though it might be a completely different thread.