“After all is said and done, folks, will YOU be willing to date and marry — or encourage your child to date and marry — someone who has a mental illness that he or she is on medication for and has completely under control that he/she can have a normal life with medication?”
Honestly: no. Not because I believe mental illness is a stigma ( it is an illness like any other) but it cannot always be controlled by meds. And I would be very worried that at any time, my child’s spouse could stop taking them (they worked, I’m cured) & that will spiral into a nightmare.
BUT…. a shidduch came up with someone with insulin-dependant diabetes and the shadchan told me when she first told us about the person. To make sure we were fully knowledgeable I went to see my GP who said absolutely nothing to be concerned about. Years later & healthy as a horse B”H, they have a beautiful, healthy family. So to whoever said diabetes is just as bad… baloney. With everything medical, including mental illness – do your research. Speak to the person’s doctors.