To the OP. why do you have to explain anything to the girls? the Rma is clear thj\at all household members light (which the mishna berura says means everyone, except the wife since ishto kigufo). Unless of course, this family follows the mechaber that only the baal habayis lights in which case not only the girls in the family, but the boys dont either. If there is a family minhag that is not like either the mechaber, or the rma as explained by the mishna berura, then the father should explain this family minhag. If he is an am haaretz, let him ask someone who does understand the reason for the family minhag. perhaps there is NO reason and it is a minhag shtus to begin with. is there a chiyuv for a family member to follow a family minhag shtus that goes against the shulchan aruch? maybe. I would ask my rav the answer to this last question.
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