” …don’t suggest there is any reason to deny women the right to light candles if that is their preference.”
That line makes no sense. We don’t do things based on our preference unless Halacha dictates that it relies on our preference. I find your posts very confused (not confusing). On one hand you reprimand anyone who is unkind toward others while at the same time speak very negatively about anyone who is doing things that you consider ancient, discriminatory or excessive.
What gives? While some of your posts are very respectful toward Rabbaim and Torah, in other posts your attitude toward religion is highly critical and accuses Torah of being anti women. Well it isn’t. And doing things because you want to isn’t the way the real world works. If your mesorah dictates choice then so be it, but we weren’t having a halachik discussion so saying nobody gave sources is ludicrous.
If you are an acclaimed oncologist who forever views herself as a brain surgeon wannabe then I feel very sorry for you.