LU:
“but rather, to sheilahs that should have been asked, whether or not they were”
Ubiquitin: “Though that isnt really the topic we were discussing.
Again the question was “How often does an average frum family consult with their Rov for a shaila or other advice””
LU: My original post was (sigh):
(Ubiquitin): “(If you want my answer for the “average frum family” (ie excluding newcomers and excluding those who may be exceptionally learned) Id say range between twice a month and 4 times a year (other than taharas hamishpacha) Admittedly I have no idea how I came up with this number)”
That seems to me like a very low estimate. Not necessarily in terms of how many sheilas people ask, but at least in terms of how many sheilas they actually have and would want to ask (but may not have anyone to ask).
I think that the range amongst people I know is more like once every week to at least once a day.
But most people I know don’t end up asking each time, either because they don’t have “A Rav” to ask all their sheilas to, or there is no one to ask because it’s Shabbos and they need an immediate answer, or it’s difficult/impossible to find someone to ask each time a sheilah arises and it’s the kind of thing that they can just avoid doing if they have no one to ask.”
You are allowed to write about something that is not the exact same as the original question as long as you make it clear that you are doing so.
(The problem is when you don’t make it clear that that is what you are doing, and/or you respond to other people’s posts who are referring to the original situation as though they are also referring to another situation, even after they made it quite clear that that was not what they were doing.)