SH: You keep on spitting back the same Kool-aid. But I haven’t heard of one family that had this minhag in Europe. Aderaba, I’d like to hear from non Lubavitch readers here to the contrary.
And I believe a young girl shouldn’t be asked to go against her family’s minhag. (Although it was probably prefaced with something to the effect of “with your parents” permission” I still think it’s wrong.)
Neither should someone who says his own TRADITIONAL grandmother disagrees.
But it’s not this that’s getting me “riled up”. It’s the whole pattern here of deceit and lies, and trying to cater the message to suit the audience.