‘’You seem to assume that anyone going through a tough time needs to be meikil.’’
I never said anything of the sort. I never even said that he should be meikel or go to a Rav who will tell him to be meikel. If you think that I did, you did not read what I wrote carefully.
‘’That may very well be true in some cases, but may very well be damaging in others. Perhaps long term, some individuals may be better off holding fast to their standards, rather than slacking off and feeling as if they was too weak and caved in.’’
Which is what I said. And that shows that you didn’t read what I wrote (or not carefully enough) before commenting.
‘’It’s not something you and I should be opining, or opining that he should be second guessing the rav to whom he first asked the shailah.’’
I didn’t second guess the Rav; he did. I told him the qualifications that I thought a Rav should have in order to be able to answer the question, and that he should make sure to ask a Rav who has those qualifications.