lesschumras,
Joseph, another reason I don’t follow Rabbi Miller. The first time I saw my wife to be it was love at first sight.
1. I don’t think Rav Miller (and I am assuming that we’re reading a faithful reproduction of his words – I cannot independently verify it to be the case) stated that a man would not have love at first sight upon finding his wife. I would imagine that most men do. The message is that love at first sight is not necessarily an indicator of compatibility for marriage.
2. Ever hear of survivor bias?
Unlike Rav Miller’s stereotypes, she did not paint her eyes, face or nails.
I think this was just a colorful way to address physical beauty vs. inner beauty.
Besides her beauty, what really shone through was her chesed, character and sweetness. We’ve been married 46 wonderful years
That’s wonderful! Did you really see her chesed, character, and sweetness the very first instant you saw her? Or did those middos shine through as you got to know her?