- This topic has 22 replies, 10 voices, and was last updated 7 years, 2 months ago by .
-
Posts
-
If you share a babysitter with someone else, and one of the kids is sick on a particular day (to the extent that you would not want the kids to be near each other), how do you decide who gets the babysitter that day?
You follow the ways of Shlomo. Someone offers to cut the babysitter in half and each mother gets half of her. Whoever accepts first doesn’t get any babysitter.
I would say, all else being equal, that the healty child gets the babysitter, but the specifics should be worked out when the arrangements are first made.
Is all else equal, or are there other factors which may favor one over the other?
You put the kids in two different bedrooms and have the babysitter go back and forth.
My answer would probably be about how heartbreaking it is to think of a sick kid being home with a babysitter instead of a family member which nobody wants to hear so I’ll refrain from commenting.
🤒😢👶🏻💔
Yes, Syag I was thinking the same, but acknowledge that for some families that could be very difficult to impossible to do.
Another point in favor of the healthy baby- why should the babysitter get sick? Or catch something that she could pass on to her family/little kids, as the case may be?Please state how they “share the babysitter”? Do you bring the children to the baby sitter? Is it a daily arrangement based on hours? Too little information to even offer a response.
Meno: Sit down with the other parents and discuss it. There is no simple answer.
Syag, dad is kolel, mom works. What exactly are they supposed to do? Kids get sick and she can’t keep staying home
True, I mean it’s just a kid. So what if they feel abandoned every now and then. They’ll get over it.
“Now you’re getting it.”
Yeah, but the kids aren’t. but whatever.
Stop making working for a living to support one’s children sound like a crime.
Not that it’s your place to bully people for expressing their beliefs but I would counter with – Stop making abandoning your kids to a third party sound like it’s a healthy option.
There is a huge difference between disagreeing with someones beliefs and bullying them for expressing themselves.
If you disagree, feel free to say so, instead of telling me I’m not allowed to disagree.Meno – you don’t like my feelings on babysitting any more than I like yours. And I am welcome to say so, as are you. But I don’t bully you for saying so or doing so. And I don’t go around trolling threads to bring out the worst in people.
You’re bullying me for my methods of disagreeing.
Actually I’m not, which I know you know. So sorry.
Thanks, that’s what we did.
Sure, leave us in suspense as to what the resolution was.
I would think that one of the issues here might be that different people have different ideas of what is considered “too sick to be around other kids”.
If the parents of the sick kid think he’s too sick to go to the babysitter, then I would think that they should be the ones who don’t get the babysitter. But if they thought it made sense to send him and the other parents didn’t, then it’s more complicated and I think you need to ask a sheilah. Maybe you should do that in any case.
I agree with DY that it’s best to work these things out beforehand, but that doesn’t help you now. Also, it’s hard to work it out beforehand since different people have different ideas of what is considered “too sick to be around other kids”.
Syag, I know otherwise. My imperative sentence was simply my way of phrasing my disagreement, and your statement was a way of disparaging me and my way of communicating.
In previous generations there were no babysitters. The child would be left completely alone.
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.