whether there is a crisis or not, whether it is due to a an age gap or nor, whether we can fix it with some simple solutions or not, there is one thing that we should not forget during these discussions:
There are PEOPLE out there, women and men, girls and boys who are suffering because they want very much to be married but have not yet found their bsherts. They may have emuna that it will happen at the right time, and that Hashem wants them to be where they are at that particular moment, but that does not take away the pain of davening for something, only to be told “not yet.” And it is not just the frustration of wanting to fulfill an important tafkid but not being able to, it is also the feeling of not really being part of society, being marginalized, no longer being a child, but not accepted by others as an adult, having to tolerate (with a smile, no less) people’s judgmentalism and personally invasive questions. Put yourself for one moment in the shoes of someone going through this nisayon, and then go daven that no one should have to feel such pain.
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