Almost Human – First of all, I’m so sorry to hear about your wife. That sounds inadequate, but I don’t know what else I can say.
Second of all, thanks for the input from someone who knows about the topic from experience, even though I’m sure it’s not easy for you to discuss it.
Third of all, I agree with you that parents should tell their children. Of course, I can’t really judge anyone else, especially since B”H, I’ve never been in that situation, but it does sound like the healthier approach to me, by far!
Fourth of all, I know this wasn’t your point, but how open one is about it has nothing to do with the term used. Some people are more comfortable with one term, and others with the other. Who cares? Why can’t people be more tolerant and open-minded of those who do things differently than them?