Men marrying younger women: Chassidic vs Yeshivish

That is accurate to a certain extent. It is accurate that Chasidim most frequently marry the same age. By the Yeshivish more frequently the groom is a few years older than the bride.

We are Misnagid of Litvak and German stock, but many generations in America.
Personally I think the ages of the couple should be reasonably close (within 5 years), but it doesn’t matter who is older.
My eldest brother is three years younger than his wife (married more than 50 years)
My eldest sister is three months older than her husband (married 47 years)
My eldest nephew is three years younger than his wife….the wife was his older sister’s college roommate and the sister fixed them up knowing they were a match….yesterday was there 20th anniversary.
My eldest son is a year younger than his wife…they finished law school together and married the next week.
(married 17 years)
I’m two years older than Mrs. CTL. Our mothers fixed us up when she was a senior in college and I was in final semester of law school…we’ve been married more than 45 years.
I have a female cousin who married a man 12 years older than herself. They had nothing in common to talk about. The shadchan kept telling her what a great catch this was….her mother kept saying if he’s a great catch why was he single so long? The marriage lasted about two years, then divorce. A year later she married a man her own age…..(married 35 years).

lot112: All the other issues you mention wouldn’t contribute to the real issue of their being more girls than boys looking for a shidduch.

joseph: I have read many of the articles and ads about the “age” gap. Does anyone have actual accurate numbers to back up this claim? Yes I know there are many young ladies and woman looking for a shidduch. Yet, is it really wrong to try and be meshadach a 25 yoa male and a 21 or 22 yoa female?

Dear Joseph : I’m writing from a Shadchan’s point of view,
The reason that there are more girls than boys can’t find their BASHERTE is because, the girl will usually tell her friends secretly that she’s dating tonight, the girl takes her phone along to record the whole shmuz, they then go back to their friends listening to the recording, her friends then discourage the Shidduch, then it goes on & on & on, again and again, it’s like a sport & a game, they’re not at all serious about getting engaged, until they get older & pretend that they’re now mature enough to get married,
& whilst I’m at it, I’ve heard from the Skvere Rabbi that his opinion in getting married young is because, like this neither the boy nor the girl are yet mature enough, so they grow up slowly together, by the time they reach 25 they know each other’s תכניות הנפש, as opposed to the Litvish world they only get married once they’re both mature enough, so each other’s demands are different, I’m not in any way condone the Litvish way, it’s just the thaught.
May all boys & girls find their BASHERTE quickly & easily, &(In my opinion) young,,, good luck

Joseph: why does Chymee need to explain something that has been explained in other threads

Joseph: To refresh your memory a bit, remember Naasi… Please do a search and see the explanation there.

Chymee “Yes, it certainly DOES explain”…
I think what Joseph means is that if you have 100 boys and 100 girls. All the boys are happy to marry, but 20 girls are like you described. How many will get married.
You make it sound like 100 boys will get married and 80 girls, and that’s why there are lots of unmarried girls and no unmarried boys.
But obviously as each boy marries only one girl, if the girls are being picky then there will be a corresponding number of unmarried boys.
Therefore your points don’t explain why there is a shidduch crisis for girls and not for boys.

But are you serious that girls aren’t serious about getting married? My impression was they’re all desperate to ring all their friends with the good news before their friends ring them and make them feel older.