There is an amazing insight in “Ohev Yisroel” this week. He explains that the ONLY way to protect small children who do not have yet enough of their own abilities for protection is when the parents do mitzvos with kedusha, it creates a holy angel that protects the children.. so we do have some control on our children’s decisions by doing the right things ourselves
There are some well known people who went OTD whose parents were very chashuv people