I have dealt with and known bachurim for a long time. Almost everyone responding here are partially responsible for the Off the derech problem. Any bachur who has a good self esteem will drink responsibly and exhibit other positive behavior. Also, with the pressure put on the bachurim today and everything that they can do to relax even if it is haskaficly correct, is deemed asur. now you have these dimwits saying a beer is asur, going to bbq is asur, sports is asur , listening to Jewish music is asur( yes this does exist)a I’ve told my boys and others that come to my house Fri night having a beer or 2 with chulent is ok, having a bbq and drinking 1 beer is ok but when some of them came shabbos afternoon with a large tote of beer i took it away. I told them theres no reason to have beer shabbos afternoon. You got to show them how to behave and most will listen is said the correct way.
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