To address this comment of GadolHaDorah (by the way do you mean to say you are gadol HaDor or Gadol HaTorah, or is your name a combination of both, or is it just a typo?)- : “but otherwide (sic) engage in normal introductions, connectrions (sic) and dating the same way as the large percentage of people do. ”
I assume you are referring to the secular world who do not date shidduch style. When I was single, I would commiserate with a fellow single co-worker, who despite my difficulties finding a shidduch, still told me she was jealous that we had a system in place that made a priority of setting people up. In her secular circles, if you did not meet your future husband by the time you finished college, then it was really hard. She was not the type to hang out in bars, and was not interested in dating guys who wanted a girlfriend but not a wife. Note that in the secular world, there are a lot more “older singles” around, and not always by choice. So as much as our system may be flawed to some degree, it is still better than the alternative.