ASSURNET, I think i know how u feel a bit. I realized though that when i listen to grunge a lot it makes me get in the grunge mindset a lot. Its no surprise to me all the grunge guys kill themselves. So i avoid prolonged exposure. Even too much blues can give you the blues, two friends of mine just had this problem.
I think the whole grunge emotion is one of those feelings that dont really have a place in judaism. Like you said really. I try to listen to music of bitachon and hope instead, or chizuk. Even if not right away then after my small vent session. Its more about not letting the feelings of pain and anger break me down but with them in me (or because of them if im lucky) blindly holding on to the rope that hashem cares and feels my pain, its all ok, for the best, and will work out because he didnt forgrt about me. When that feeling hits home it washes over me and my body loosens up, i relax a lot more and sometimes eventually the color comes back to the world.
If i find anything that i thinks hits that spot il try to letcha know. You tried zusha?