It sounds like RebShidduch is ambivalent right now. She can have mixed feelings. It may not be logical but it’s possible to feel this way and that way, and go back and forth trying to resolve the cognitive dissonance.
Has no one ever been torn?
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And/or maybe with this guy she is looking for, perhaps subconsciously, contradictory qualities:
Like some bochurim are looking for a wife that is this and that, but this and that usually don’t go together in one person.
As explained in Dr. Benzion Sorotzkin’s Finding The Bashert: Why Is It So Difficult To Hear The Bas Kol?
Thank you 🙂