Avi K,
Sometimes because of exigencies it is not possible to cater to everyone’s whims.
Calling other people’s minhagim “whims”. Right out of the gate it’s clear that you’re not arguing from a place of mutual respect.
Sometimes it is even necessary to rely on leniencies.
How is forcing men to go to concerts “necessary” in the slightest? Or refusing to bring in mehadrin kosher food for soldiers who need it?
If the IDF is serious about wanting chareidim to serve, then they have to demonstrate basic respect for chareidi beliefs. They have to decide whether the army is fundamentally a tool for assimilation, or a force representing all Israelis that protects the nation.