“3. Many boys stop being frum in many places. Some stop in yeshiva because they are not suited for full-time learning but do not have any other alternatives in Chareidi society.”
Top boys like my brother don’t stop being Frum in Yeshiva.
They were not pulling his leg about the chametz. This was clear from the way he found out.
The fact that boys can go to hesder has nothing to do with my point. I was talking about what the government does wrong and not about what the response should be. The government is machshil Jewish boys by sending them to regular army. Most Israeli boys do not go to Hesder, so the government is doing something wrong by sending them to an army that is not run according to halacha.
I was referring to all boys – not just Yeshiva boys. All of these boys are Jewish boys, whether they are Yeshiva boys, Dati but not Yeshiva boys or not Dati. None of them belong in that kind of environmnet.
Most Dati boys do not go to hesder, and a very large percentage (I think it may be most, but if not, it is certainly a large number) stop being Dati.
Also, this was not my point at all, but the Hesder system is not a perfect solution. It is a better alternative to going to the army straight, but it is also problematic. The Roshei Yeshivas of Hesder Yeshivas have had many issues with things that go on. The boys have been forced to be oiver on issurim such as kol isha and other tznius issues.