Ubiquitin, I never changed my mind.
In response to the OP, Joseph had said:
“Who said your father has the right to “allow” you to change from your family mesorah?”
You said:
“I think changing mesora is dangerous
I believe strongly in following the minhagim of our parents (barring extenuating circumstances). Once we start uprooting MEsora because of what is “better” even if it is in fact better due to historical factors, or new changes in society it is opening pandoraas box””
These things were said in response to the OP. The implication was that the OP was doing something terrible. That sounded extreme to me since I hadn’t thought it was such a terrible thing for someone to change his minhagim from his father’s minhagim, especially in the circumstances described by the OP.
That is what most of my posts were in response to.
I then looked back at your latest post (at that point) and saw you had written this:
“but mesora should be respected, and just disacrding it is a dangerous game.”
So I commented on that point because I wanted to make it clear that no one was arguing with that. The argument was on what seemed to be a strong attack on the OP, and an implication that one is never allowed to not follow his father’s minhag, even in the OP’s case. While I don’t agree with you on that, that doesn’t mean that I think that mesorah should not be respected. I wanted to make it clear that I don’t disagree with that particular statement of yours.
It is possible that your original post was not meant as an attack on the OP per se’, and you were just making a general comment about the issue. However, coming as it did in response to the OP, it sounded to me like you were attacking what he is doing.
Perhaps that is not how you meant it, but if you reread the OP and your comment following, I think you will see that it certainly sounds like it.
L’maaseh, I don’t have a definite opinion on the topic, and I do think that there is room for more than one approach. My point was that I didn’t think the OP should be attacked or criticized for changing his minhagim, but that doesn’t mean that I disagree with your statement that Mesorah should be respected. I see no contradiction between those two statements.