Reply To: What would you do?

About women following their instincts;

Last year I had a situation with a creepy neighbor who told me about a flat tire. At first I thanked him so much for letting me know.

Soon after he was at my door knocking loudly to tell me that my tire was flat again. I thanked him and didn’t give him my number like he asked.

He gave me his number and I left it at that. He really made me uncomfortable.

I started ignoring him from then on. Not making eye contact. Never saying Hi even when he did. Even had a male family member tell him off to never rapproach me again.

Thank G-d he moved. I have felt more comfortable in my neighborhood since he moved.

Yesterday I learned that after I started ignoring him, he started pestering another female neighbor who recently moved into the neighborhood.

He told her that she had a flat tire. Then did it again. She exchanged numbers with him. He started texting her like crazy with creepy stuff. He eventually moved but still contacts her sometimes. As of now, she is not taking further action.

Anyway…

I weighed the risk of not telling him with the risks of opening that door of communication with him and his friends. I chose to play it safe.

In the event that chas v’shalom thus “mitzvah” that I did later turned into more frequent contact and then issues with his older friends or whatever, how many of you posters would go at me telling me that it was my fault for not guarding my tznius?

If I came here saying that I am having problems with guy neighbors and mention that it all gradually started when I knocked on his door to let him know about his keys before skipping home, would no one here tell me that it wasn’t right to do that in the first place, especially because it was not appropriate contact, he wasn’t in danger, any risk of someone else grabeing his keys was low, and maybe even Hashem was testing me to see if I was going to take the bait?