my husband asked me on our 7th date (as he was instructed by his rebbe ) how i felt about ‘us’ and in doing so was hoping to move me along in the relationship. There was absolutely no intent to be getting engaged, we had only dated for 2 weeks.
to his surprise i was completely responsive and by the end of the night we were unofficially engaged. When we called his Rebbi (the Shadchan) after the date to tell him that we were engaged, his Rebbi was Shocked! (although this wasn’t part of the plan, it definately was well recieved)
3 months later, after our wedding, we realized that we had gotten engaged completely by accident.
i thought he was talking about ‘us’ getting engaged and married and he was just gently trying to broach the subject…(not trying to freak me out that he was really ready to get engaged). he was so happy that he didnt have to sweat his brains out to move our relationship along bc everything was going to smoothly 😉 little did i know he wasnt asking me to marry him, but he was sure happy when we parted that date basically engaged!