That girl needs help. I wonder what her references had said when asked about her middos?
What do you THINK her “references” (how I LOATHE that term – it’s a shidduch, people, not a job application) would say? If her parents gave those names out as contacts, they are surely people who have only good things to say. Who would be foolish enough to give a name out to a shadchan of someone who has NEGATIVE opinions about the person in question?