Don’t do it rebshidduch.
You cannot make him into someone else.
There are many beautiful stories about women fixing up their men to become Torah scholars. They are meant to teach lessons but not meant to say that any guy will blossom into a Talmud Chacham so long as the right girl supports him.
Sorry for telling you so directly. I am not right and don’t know.
But what I hear from you is the attempt to bring matters into your own hands and find yourself a husband. So your friends brother or brothers friend isn’t the right age. So that didn’t work. Now this guy.
I need to press send here before the Mods clip it.