It is not good to have a posek who is incommunicado. He doesn’t even have a phone number or an email address? We are taught that we should acquire for ourselves a teacher. So in the meantime you need to have another rav you can ask.
Many, many poskim say that the obligation is to drink just somewhat more than one does otherwise. The Steipler reportedly got drunk one year but never did again, because he realized it was not good for him. Just ask another Rav.