“4. Will I be more or less likely to be set up with the kinds of boys I want to be set up with?
5. Will the kinds of boys I don’t want to marry be more likely to talk to me and want to go out with me?”
Lilmod Ulelamaid: Forgive my lack of knowledge about how the shidduch system works, but why should a girl change her lifestyle because of how it could affect her prospects? I don’t see why she shouldn’t just be herself, and thereby find a guy who’s a better fit for who she really is, not who she pretends to be, that way.