I am not dating “learning” guys, but I expect them to do all in their power that they don’t miss a minyan. Especially in Brooklyn where you can catch in minyan @ Landau’s any time of the day!
Girls should not talk in gemara language, and honestly if a guy would talk divrei torah the whole time, I’d get bored. Sorry, but I’m a real person. Not some mythical Bais Yaakov creature.