The following has been posted in the past and it works. Identify a shadchan or two whom you think would know the right kind of boy for you. Let them know you recognize how busy they are and you appreciate their time and effort. Put a clear reasonable amount of compensation for date number 2/date number 4. (I would suggest for girls 21-25 $100 for date #2 350 for date #4, for girls 25+ it’s obviously more difficult and should be adjusted considerabley higher).
Yes i put my $$ where my typing is for individual girls who i personally am looking out for and have seen tremendous results. Shadchanim appreciate being appreciated and its a achievable goal that they will pursue not simply for the money but for the unusual phenomena of someone who identifies with their struggle.
You can expand thus by tactfully informing your various acquaintances of the same offer. it’s a extremely inexpensive way of getting quality attention.
It may be more tactful if someone other than the individual girl or her family contacts the shadchan on their behalf and makes the offer perhaps even without the girl and her family knowing (that’s what I have done) but either way IT WORKS, plain and pasut!