The comment on bechira, DY, refers back to a previous comment of mine on this thread and the idea of forcing someone to marry, not to you. Sorry.
I’d ask you to consider, DY, that struggling with Hashem and struggling against Hashem are two entirely different concepts.
As to ITFT’s last words, I value each and every poster here, including ITFT. If I took it personally it would tarnish if not diminish that value. I’m not interested in that, and so I choose not to respond harshly. Being thin skinned has a lot to do with not having confidence in one’s convictions, and lashing out because of a perceived slight would reflect a lack of confidence. I don’t lack it, and thus don’t feel a need to take it personally or lash out.