flatbusher: I understand that the parents of the chosson and kallah (generally the one’s footing the bill) want things to go as smoothly as possible. I personally think it is wonderful that CTLAWYER’s DIL took on that responsibility as the coordinator. I do wonder who was the coordinator for his first child’s chasunah but in truth it is none of my business.
I made chasunahs for my two oldest children and I did not have anyone old enough or experienced to handle the coordination.
As for the type of flowers and liquor; as a guest I personally wouldn’t care. However, if I paid for a certain flower arrangement and it wasn’t delivered I too would be upset. I had a friend of mine who had to have all the “bentchers” redone as the monogram was not centered properly.
tantali: There are numerous reasons to have pictures and videos of the occasion. However, R’ Pam had a different thought. He stated that when a couple has issues during the marriage, they will look back at the pictures and see how happy they were that day and hopefully, help them overcome whatever issue they are facing.