“if my wife said if I go for individual counseling was a condition to staying married, then yes, i would do so, even if I thought it was stupid. It wouldn’t make a difference to her either way.”
But maybe it would make a difference to you- maybe you need the therapy to uncover issues that you don’t realize that you have. Maybe it will help you save the marriage, maybe not. But it will make you a better person. And if this marriage ends up in a divorce, maybe it will help you pull yourself together so you can consider having a future.