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Lenny, I think you should be in touch with Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen and follow his sage advice to a tee. You can’t go wrong doing so and he is far wiser than anyone here. Also contact Rav Dovid Eidensohn in Monsey who is also an expert in these type of shalom bayis shailos. No one can give you conclusive answers over the limited information shared on a public forum.