“Though isn’t this judging?
Or then again we do judge in Judaism, at least the actions. But this is judging the individual.”
Is what judging? Talking about differences between men and women? Is that what you mean? If so, these differences are G-d given so it’s not a problem. It doesn’t reflect badly on the person since it’s from G-d.
Actually, it can help us to judge favorably since we can say that “Moshe did x,y,z because he is a man and men aren’t as sensitive by nature so he didn’t realize that I would be insulted” for example.
A friend of mine told me that she has an American friend married to an Israeli. Her friend told her that it’s great for shalom bayis because anything she does that bothers her husband, he just assumes it’s because she’s American. Same idea here – just blame it on their gender.