HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Halevy Wosner Shlita feels weddings should be shorter, explaining the entertainers simply “take too much time” resulting in a great “waste of time”. The gadol explained the special entertainers that today are commonly seen at weddings “take more time than the chasnah itself” and he feels curtailing this is a “big tikun” for many things.
Rav Wosner made his remarks during a visit to his home by the Satmar Rebbe of Kiryas Yoel Shlita, who was in Bnei Brak. The rav praised the takona in place in Satmar, which demands birkas hamazon is no later than 11pm. This takona prevents people from missing halachic times the following morning Rav Wosner explained.
The rav added that he saw in a sefer that the ‘Pele’, who served as rov in Vitkov before taking his post in Frankfurt, made a takona that there would be no more than a minyan present at the wedding seuda. “These takonos existed in the past and we must renew them with each generation”, added Rav Wosner.
The weekly BaKehilla adds Rav Wosner told the rebbe that of late, he received a number of halachic inquiries from Lakewood pertaining to internet and computers, which he did not answer. He explained there are questions that are difficult to respond to with a simple “yes or no” for responding either way may prove problematic. “On the one hand, one may lose one’s income if one walks away from them and on the other hand, what do you expect from your inquiry, not to walk away from them” stated Rav Wosner.
Rav Wosner told the rebbe that he already spoke out regarding the danger of the internet 10 and 15 years ago, praising the rebbe and the Satmar regulations within the Satmar chassidus.
(YWN – Israel Desk, Jerusalem)
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“weddings should be shorter…These takonos existed in the past and we must renew them with each generation, added Rav Wosner.”
The only way that takonos will take hold across the board is when the Rabbis refuse to otherwise attend and if there are no exceptions to the takona; it will never happen.
Recently at chasuna where choson- kallah didn’t come down to seuda until about 10:45pm. Kallah spent an hour getting her sheitel just right!
what about the first mishna in Brochos. Hegeya banav mibeis hamishteh. Amru lo korinu es shema. Amar lohem im lo aleh amud hashachar chayevim atem likros. That chasunah ended after chatzos.
Crazykanoiy – I like your point. Not that I disagree with ending Chasunos early – as a working person, I generally will not stay after 10:30 PM.
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If the gedolim are unhappy with extravagant chasunas, why do their children have chasunas with thousands of guests present, sometimes taking up stadiums and armories?
As they say’ do not confuse me with the facts crazykanoiy,
when a godel say s, thats it..
I just wonder when this godel notice the problem ? was it when satmer(one half) rebbe came to town
#3: can you really compare those chasunas with ours?
do you really think that back then the tannaim just wasted away a whole night? chalila, they were talking in learning the whole time, as proven from other gemoras there in brochos
1) To Crazykanoiy: How do you know when it ended? Maybe it took them a while to get back home. There were no cars in those days.
2) In Lakewood, due to an agreement with the neighbors, the Bais Faiga hall has a rule that all music must end by 11:00 pm. The many people that i have spoken to, all enjoy that rule. No one is embarased or insulted since the rule is for all – no exceptions. Besides for people getting home at a normal hour, money is saved for not having to pay a band or photographer past 11:00 pm.
It would be wonderful if the 11:00 bentchen would be followed. I was at a family wedding (both sides Aroinim) and I got home at 4:00 AM. The Mitzva Tantz started at 12:45.
Maybe it is my age, but I really don’t have the patience anymore. I want to stay through close family weddings, but for those of us who arrive early, this time seems interminable.
This would not go well with the Rebbes, the Mitzva tanz is never before 1:00 AM