– when you eat breakfast and lunch the day of chasuna, instead of “fasting” so you can make the most of the meal (nearly 20 years later, I still eat lightly the day of a chasuna or shul dinner)
– when being tired overtakes the desire to eat chulent Friday night
– when you ask young bochurim home during bein ha’zmanim, “What are you learning,” and then reminisce about what you learned, and when you learned it
– when you realize that the boys in yeshiva with whom you ate Shabbos lunch are now the shoel u’mashiv and magidei shiur, and you just have a regular job
– when you really “get” what people write in the haskomos of their seforim, that without their wives, the learning would not have been possible; when you understand when the rov says the rebbetzin has enabled him to do what he does