No health, that was not what I was saying, B”H I have never been divorced, but I know people who were, so this is not coming from nowhere. What I was trying to say, I guess not clearly enough, is that even if the divorce was amicable, and everything is smooth in terms of custody and visitation etc, the dynamics can change when one party remarries- things will be better IY”H for the remarrying father and his new wife, but not necessarily for the ex-wife. so as much as Lavender can check out what the relationship with the kids and ex are now, it does not mean that it will stay that way, and she should not have any illusions that things will be smooth sailing in such a complex situation.
Sorry, I wish I had someone for you, but my friends all have issues, I don’t think you would want to date them (think Rabbit and his neurosis, Eyore and his lack of self-esteem, Tigger and his hyperactivity…) Besides, they’re all guys, except Kanga, and she has a kid (from a previous marriage???)