To CTLAWYER: I read your post, and my interpretation was reasonable. Somewhere in your education, someone should have told to to avoid the passive voice, as it hides the doer of the action. And you could have written, in the active voice, that your grandmother taught (or told) you to find a pretty wife. My grandmother taught me the same thing.
In my experience with lawyers (of which I am one), I find that whenever I hear the passive voice, a lawyer or his/her client is weasling and obfuscating, which is part of us lawyers’ bag of tricks.