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These are the type of decisions that must be made on an individual basis by people who are familiar with the particulars and characters of each case

A quick caveat: These decisions must also be made by people who are qualified to deal to deal with them.

A Rabbi for whom I have a great amount of respect once told me something to the effect of: I cannot begin to tell you how much marital trouble is the result of the actions of well-meaning Rabbis. One has to know what one is and is not qualified to deal with, and when to send a couple to a marriage therapist. (Although it should also be noted that there are plenty of bad marriage therapists out there who do more harm than good.)