LB- why don’t you ask your LOR about it? Or call the Shmiras Halashon hotline. There is a hotline that you can call to ask hilchos lashon hora questions. I think it’s available every night from app. 9 – 10:30. You can find the number online.
Just make sure when you ask the question that you explain the exact situation – the way you feel and the types of things that you want to ask, and where you are asking the question, etc. If you feel that you need to say something for psychological reasons, that can make it permissible. Also, if you are trying to find out the answer to a question, etc.
You may also want to think about (or ask a sheilah about) if this is really the best place for your questions or not. If you have nowhere else to go, maybe it is. But maybe some questions are better off being asked to a Rav, if you have one whom you can speak to. It’s something you may want to think about.