Lenny1970:
1. I would like to apologize again if I said anything to offend you. I was trying very hard not to, but sometimes when you are having a discussion that is a combination of theoretical/philosophical and practical AND when you are “talking” to more than one person at a time, it is very difficult to not inadvertantly offend someone. So I would like to apologize if I did, and I hope you are moichel.
2. I must say that I am impressed at the way you are taking this long drawn-out discussion/argument revolving around your life!!
3. Shkoyach for the way you are dealing with your situation. It sounds like you have it under control and really are trying to deal with it appropriately. And I do apologize if I unfairly judged you in that regard.
4. “Lilmod, you say “IF the Rabbanim and therapists feel that the marriage is not viable and that they should get divorced, and his wife still hates him and is insisting on a divorce, he should not be stubborn and refuse to give his wife a get for many years.” Lilmod, I agree.”
Great! So if you agree with me, maybe we can just close this thread now! Oh wait, I am still waiting for Joseph to acknowledge that I am right and to prove to the oilam that he is capable of admitting when he is wrong :). So as soon as Yomtov ends in New York and he admits I am right, then maybe we can close this thread!
5. After you speak to the Beis Din, I would love to hear what they say, and how in fact, Batei Dinim do deal with divorce issues (although I know they are not all the same – I just got that information from someone I know who is an expert on the topic).
6. Hatzlacha Rabba!!!
7. Moadim L’Simcha!