Joseph – you are talking such nonsense! I am really beginning to lose all respect for you. How can you think of writing such a thing? You can’t just decide how divorce works based on reading the Shulchan Aruch. Halacha doesn’t start and end with the Shulchan Aruch, especially when it comes to something as complicated as divorce. You have to find out how the Beis Dins nowadays deal with divorce, and I can assure you that if someone is being abused, they tell the husband to give her a Get, and in some cases, if he refuses, they will even beat him until he does.
Probably the halachos you are talking about are dealing with whether or not the Beis Din can FORCE someone to give a divorce. I was not talking about whether or not they can force someone to give a divorce, but rather, whether or not, they will try to encourage him to do so.
And the fact still remains that in the context of the current situation, you are (whether deliberately or not) encouraging someone to abuse his wife instead of trying to get him to fulfill his obligations towards her. Why would you do such a thing?? That is totally against the Torah!!! And if you don’t see how that is against the Torah, you need to start learning Mussar very seriously!!!
Please tell me that you weren’t paying attention to the context and were not trying to imply such a thing. I really would like to be able to be dan you l’kaf zchus!!