Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Thanks for everyone’s feedback. My wife & I met w/ our Rebbe earlier. My wife & I will meet with the Rabbi from Bais Horaah in Lakewood for a shaila. Hopefully, he can give us guidance on how to conduct ourselves & tell us how a Beis Din would rule. Also, my Rabbi said he didn’t say a beis din “would definitely” order me to give a Get. He said he told us the beis din “could definitely order” it. My bad. I mis-heard him. In any case, thanks to the posters on this board. There’s at least an outside shot at salvaging our marriage. Thanks again & shavuah tov.